You’re in the driver’s seat here, which means you can control everything from the pace to the angle to the depth of this position. "Kama Sutra says that, when you’re on top, only move your hips and don’t move the upper part of your body," Anand explains. Moving more than just your hips could hurt your back. So, to keep the focus on pleasure, try to isolate your movements. Do It: Have your partner sit on a chair or the edge of a bed, as you face them and sit on their lap.